The perfect teacher is the present moment
The current circumstances are a challenge to many. Uncertainty, loneliness. If you already have a preexisting depression or PTSD, you know how even little hiccups can scramble your thinking making it hard to deal with seemingly smalls things constructively.
Numbing, sedating, controlling & distracting ourselves
We drink more, the time we scroll on our digital devices has sky rocketed, we indulge in comfort food, we allow to be seduced by the calmness pills bring. We sedate, distract and numb ourselves. Because we know no other way how to deal with these intense feelings.
The unfortunate thing is, it doesn’t help in the long run. Pain & discomfort will resurface again, usually in inconvenient ways during triggering circumstances. Looking for a more effective way to really deal with pain & discomfort, without being sucked into drama?
The Presence Process
Below is a little excerpt from Michael Brown’s The Presence Process.
We are taught by example from early age on to fear, to resist pain and discomfort by controlling them, sedating them, distracting ourselves from them, numbing them, and drugging them.
We are led to believe that pain & discomfort are our enemies, and that when they manifest we are to escape from or conquer them at all cost. We consequently assume pain & discomfort are indicators that something is wrong.
In contrast, The Presence Process invites us to respond to our experiences of pain & discomfort by listening to them instead of running away from them or attacking them. We are asked to consider the possibility that any experience of pain & discomfort is purposeful – that it’s occurring intentionally.
In other words, when pain & discomfort arise, it’s because they are required. They are valid because they are forms of communication that have a necessary and valuable function.
Have you ever entertained the possibility that pain & discomfort are our friends, not our enemies, and that they have come to assist us, not to hurt us?
And have you ever considered the possibility that one of the most uncomfortable aspects of our pain & discomfort may well be our resistance to them?
How to deal with pain & discomfort
Things to ponder. So I wonder:
How do you usually deal with pain & discomfort, and how is that working for you? Would you like to share that here so we can all learn from each other & grow together?
Thank you ♥
IC Kasey Cole